What the Wise Men Can Teach Us about Taking Risks

What the Wise Men Can Teach Us about Taking Risks

Today I’m happy to welcome a guest to the blog! Lana Christian is going to be talking to us a bit about the wise men and the lessons we can still learn from them today, as we celebrate the release of her novel, New Star.

Christmas preparations are underway. Soon venerated Nativity scenes will be pulled out of storage. As a child, I loved setting up our Nativity, nestling the Woolworth figurines in a cardboard box my dad had painted to look like a barn. Of course, the Wise Men were part of the scene, even though the Bible tells us they didn’t visit Jesus until He was about one-and-a-half years old.

There were logistical reasons for that delay. But I digress.

What the Bible doesn’t tell us is the risks the Wise Men took to find Jesus.

A quick Google search can get you a “master class” on how to take risks. Along with the expected advice of having a plan and overcoming fear of failure, standouts in taking “good risks” include: “what matters is how dangerous the risk is” and “start with small risks.”

In other words, don’t put too much on the line.

So we don’t.

We crave short-term results akin to the resolution we can find in a two-hour movie, a three-hour football game, four weeks on a new job. But life is harder … longer … full of doubts, uncertainties, and the dark, in-between times when we can’t tell whether our risk is worth it.

It’s a good thing the Wise Men didn’t have Google when they studied an elusive star that they ultimately linked with prophesies of the eternal child-king, Yeshua. Jesus.

They put everything on the line to find Him.

Although we don’t know where the Wise Men hailed from, the greatest body of evidence points to Persia, which was part of Parthia, one of the two largest superpowers at the dawn of the first century. There the Wise Men held privileged, influential positions within Magi society, serving multiple religions while adhering to their country’s official religion. A religion that influenced everything from their government and health care to ecology and sanitation practices.

The Wise Men did something completely countercultural and counterintuitive in seeking Jesus. They bucked their culture and religion … risked their reputations, careers, and even their lives on a politically charged pursuit with seemingly no chance of success. Why did they do it? To answer those questions, I spent three years researching and writing New Star.

The Wise Men can teach us a lot about taking risks.

  1. Align your convictions with God’s Word and stick to it—even if it means bucking the system (Proverbs 3:5-6).
  2. Don’t be afraid to think big (Isaiah 64:3-4).
  3. Do your part to prepare (research, weigh your options, test what you’re told)—but lean into God’s wisdom and guidance more than your own (1 John 4:1, Philippians 2:13).
  4. Have a plan; expect it to change (Proverbs 19:21).
  5. Walk by faith, not by sight (2 Corinthians 5:7).
  6. Be confident in God’s ability (Psalm 25:4-5, Joshua 1:9).
  7. Setbacks can be God’s way of setting the stage for a greater victory that honors Him in ways you can’t imagine (Jeremiah 29:11).
  8. When God guides you, your destination is sure. He will accomplish His purposes (Isaiah 46: 10).

Chapter 2 of Matthew’s Gospel gives us twelve verses—a pencil sketch—of those well-educated foreigners. I wrote New Star so people can experience the Wise Men as 3D, real people before and after they find Jesus.

The Wise Men studied the stars and Hebrew writings. But finding Jesus was more than an academic exercise. They sought to know Him. That’s extraordinary because no other religion espoused anything like Judaism’s tenets. God honored those foreigners by making them privy to history’s greatest eternal shift.

Daniel 2:21-22 says if we are wise in the things of God, God will give us more wisdom and greater understanding. May that be true for us as it was with the Wise Men!

Lana Christian is an award-winning author in business and creative writing. In business, she garnered several APEX awards, a patent, a published book, and millions of dollars in grant money for clients. Years of writing manuscripts for physicians and researchers have made her an ace at research, which she leverages in writing biblical fiction. “New Star” is her debut biblical fiction novel and is the first in a series. Lana is an invited guest blogger and writes her own biweekly devotional blog, “Encouragement from Living History.” Since 2019, she has won six faith-based writing awards, including one from Baker Publishing Group for her short story about Lot. Her greatest desire is that readers have an immersive experience from her stories.

Learn more at LanaChristian.com

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42 Things

42 Things

If you’ve been hanging out here long with me, you’ll know that every year on my birthday, I’ve taken to writing a list of the corresponding number of “things” from the year I just completed that have really shaped me. Sometimes it’s silly products I discovered. Sometimes it’s things I love. Sometimes it’s things I hate. New habits. Discoveries. Achievements.

I’ll admit it. When I realized upon my husband’s birthday in June that mine was fast approaching, I had the thought of Maybe I’ll take a break this year. That list is a lot of work.

And then I thought, Are you kidding? This year, more than any year, I need to celebrate what has shaped me. Cancer isn’t going to steal that!

So without further ado, here are my 42 Things.

1. Romantasies

Last summer I began writing my first fantasy romance, aka romantasy. I eventually settled on calling it Awakened, and though it took me an entire year to write it around the many other projects I had contracted, I finished it and turned it in to my editors at WhiteCrown in June! Which means it has a release date of next June, 2025. And I’m happy to report that it already has an audio contract too! 😉 And because I was writing this new genre, I’ve spent a LOT of my reading of the last year in the genre too. So. Much. Fun.

2. SJC Forever

Right after my birthday last year, we took Xoe to St. John’s College for her freshman year. This is the college David and I went to, too, so cue allllll the memories. It has been so much fun to visit the school, to participate in Parent’s Weekend, and just to talk to Xoe about the Program and the unique life of this particular college (The Great Books School) as she goes through it. She LOVES it there, and we love seeing her come into her own at the place that so shaped us!

3. 6 Books

Okay, y’all, I usually do “x-number of books published as of this year” count on here, but instead, THIS: I turned in SIX contracted books in 2023. As in, 6. That’s a lot of books. As of my birthday, only half of them are published, but the other three will be clustered in September-November. Just look at these babies!

4. Pensacola Beach Writing Retreat

In October, my best friend Stephanie Morrill turned 40. She and her husband decided they’d each celebrate their milestone years with fun trips, so he went hiking…and Stephanie voted for a week-long destination writing retreat with me. First, a big mwa-ha-ha-ha on me reaping the benefits of her birthday trip treat. 😉 Sweet deal! She decided she’d like to go to Pensacola Beach, where her family had visited a couple times over spring breaks with their Airstream. We went in October–the weather was still warm, the Gulf was gorgeous, those white sand beaches were fantastic and uncrowded, and the writing was amazing. This was our first FULL WEEK retreat, and we weren’t entirely sure how it would go. Usually our trips are five days, and by the end of them, we’re feeling pretty drained. So we decided we’d not push too hard.

I said that…then I really wanted to finish An Honorable Deception while I was there. And I did!! We had a wonderful week of hanging out, fellowship, writing, walks on the beach, yummy food, and lots of joking and laughing. We even got to see the Blue Angels and Fat Albert flying by, and caught a few glimpses of their practice!

5. Box of Bookish Things

I am one of those people who sometimes gets an idea and just leaps in. I mean, who needs to plot and plan? 😉 I did this with an idea I had for a subscription box not of books, but of bookish things. Things like book page cupcake wrappers, book-themed notebooks, bookish mugs, bookmarks…you get the idea. I launched the idea last autumn, and though I paused it this summer while I dealt with, ahem, number 17 on my list, I’m looking forward to starting it up again when energy permits. Because this has been SO MUCH FUN. I love discovering new items each month and sharing them with my subscribers! And, yes, I also love adding the items to my own collection when there’s one left over!

6. ChocZero Orange Marmalade

Time for a random product discovery. 😉 I have long been a fan of orange marmalade, which Xoe and I refer to as “sunshine in a jar.” I’ve made my own several times and *insert chef’s kiss here. Delicious! But also full of sugar, and I’ve been making a concerted effort to cut sugar from my diet. So when I saw that ChocZero had a sugar-free marmalade, I decided to give it a try. And y’all. This stuff is delightful. As in, I ordered half a dozen jars at a go. SO GOOD. And guilt-free. And it pairs fantastically with…

7. Einkorn Flour

I had never heard of Einkorn flour until one of my Facebook friends (and fellow historical author Kimberly Duffy) posted about it, but it caught my attention. So I looked it up and discovered that Einkorn is nature’s original wheat, what they would have eaten in biblical times. It has different gluten and protein structures than modern wheat (and even other ancient grains like spelt) that make it super easy to digest. Many people who are gluten sensitive can eat einkorn without any problem. I’m not gluten sensitive, but I am interested in grains that are easy on my digestive tract, full of flavor, and whose carbs are more easily broken down. So I ordered some of this flour, and oh my goodness. It’s SO delicious! I’ve entirely given up buying bread and now just make two loaves of this at a time and pop them in the freezer, getting out 4 slices at a time. Which basically means fresh bread daily, and it has so much more flavor than anything you can buy from the store!! We are 100% in love. (I’ve been using Jovial brand–a small family company that has become the largest grower of Einkorn. Check them out here!)

8. Wavy Hair

Last August, just after my birthday, I decided to experimentally stop arguing with that one section of hair that REFUSED to be straightened properly and instead see what would happen if I embraced it. I’ve worn my hair wavy before, but only when it was longer. I had no idea what might happen when it was above my shoulders. So I got out my curling gel and scrunched it when wet and let it air dry…and I loved the result! Though I had curls as a toddler, my hair is definitely not curly now…but it’s solidly wavy, and it felt beachy and summery and fun. I kept wearing it like that all through the last year!

9. Bye-Bye, Vega

In our family, we name our cars. I totally started it with my very first cars, reasoning that if people named their horses, why not our vehicles? They’re pretty important to us, right? My first car was Snowball, though we sold her pretty quickly and got Sparky instead. I named my husband’s Jeep Bartok, and the first car we bought together was Xander. Our Mazda is Zipporah–which our daughter named. So when we got her a car, she obviously had to name it. It was a silver Toyota Corolla (hard car to spot in a parking lot! There are SO MANY of them!), so she decided to embrace that silver-like-the-stars idea and named it Vega.

Well, poor Vega got smashed. In February, a horrible wind storm came through and knocked down eight different trees on our property, three of which did the domino-effect right onto the roof of Vega. They also took out our power lines and a pole. We had downed live wires, our driveway was completely blocked off…it was exciting. This of course happened in the middle of the night, but by morning, the power company had restored the electrical lines. Poor Vega, though, was totaled.

Xoe was at college when it happened, so we had to call her with the bad news. The funny thing is that nearly all her friends are city people, so when she told them “A tree fell on my car!” they were utterly confused as to how this happened. She had to explain that we live in the middle of a forest, LOL.

10. Hello, Antigone

So of course, we had to hunt for a new car for Xoe. This was a long process, which nearly drove my husband to obsessive-distraction. 😉 After much ado, we finally bought her an old Lexus in a beautiful deep metallic purple called “Black Garnet Pearl.” And I gotta say, after driving it a few times, I declared that I could totally be a Lexus person. Even a twenty-year-old one is just so comfy and smooth and luxurious.

Xoe, deep in her year of Ancient Greek Everything at St. John’s, decided that this lovely car would be named Antigone. And so she is. =)

11. ECPA Bestseller

Hilariously, the same day we bought this car for Xoe, I got news that A Noble Scheme had hit the ECPA Bestseller list for March. My best friend thought it totally hilarious that I hit the bestseller list and bought a Lexus on the same day. So glamorous! 😉 I’ve been on the list before, but not with a new release, so this was a nice surprise. I’ll admit I’d begun to think I would simply never get on the list with a new release–and have given myself many a pep talk about it, full of things like, “Your sales numbers are fine. The fact that they don’t all come in that one month is no big deal.” Which is true. But it was still fun to finally see my book there. =)

12. Kaizen Pasta

I love pasta. I also love how I feel when I’m not eating a ton of carbs. So I’m always on the lookout for alternatives…and I am often horrified by the ones I try (like anything with konjac. It’s absolutely, 100% disgusting in my opinion, LOL). I saw an add for Kaizen pasta and rice, which uses lupini beans as its foundation, so decided to give it a try. And I really like it! It doesn’t quite have the texture and bite of semolina pasta, but it’s very reminiscent of whole grain varieties, and works great in a dish that has other stuff in it too, like veggies and meat. I bought quite a few boxes of it!

13. Changing Publishers

One of the biggest things for me professionally in the last year happened between September and November. After Bethany House passed on a stand-alone novel I pitched to them, my agent submitted the proposal elsewhere. This was the first time in a decade I’ve had anything out on submission, and I’d forgotten how nerve-wracking it could be! But the circumstances required it, and conflicted as I was at the thought of leaving the publishing home I’d been at for a decade, whose team I absolutely adore, I knew this was part of God’s plan. Especially when, half an hour after submitting to Tyndale, we had a very eager response to start chatting. Within a week, I was on a Zoom call with an editor; within three weeks, my proposal had gone to committee. And while I was in Pensacola on my writing retreat, I got the good news that Tyndale not only wanted to buy that stand-alone I’d submitted, they wanted three World War 2 novels and two novellas from me.

My agent was pretty amazed that we pitched one book and sold five, LOL, but it was confirmation to me that this was the path the Lord had prepared for me, and I felt total peace as we accepted the offer. It was sad to give the news to my Bethany House team and know that the Imposters would be my last series with them for a while, but I have loved getting to know the team at Tyndale and have been made to feel so very welcome there! We’re deep in the editorial process for that book, and I am loving working with them. As for the book…

14. My First World War 2 Novel!

When I wrote Yesterday’s Tides, I delved for the first time into WW2, but only in half the book. Still, the research I did for it gave me lots of ideas for other books set in the 1940s. My favorite revolved around a library in Paris founded by exiled German writers in the 1930s–the writers whose books had been burned and banned in Nazi Germany. They founded The Library of Burned Books in 1933 (and a second followed shortly thereafter in New York)…and when the Nazis took Paris, the first thing the Parisian government did was hand over the keys to this library. It was “kept under lock and key” by the Nazis throughout the war, which I found so intriguing. Especially as I learned that nearly all of Paris’s libraries were dismantled during the war–valuable books were sent back to Germany, forbidden books were confiscated and burned or at least stamped with a V for Verboten (forbidden), and some libraries were completely destroyed. So why did they just guard this one? I wanted to explore that, so I paired a French heroine who had been using the books in a fledgling espionage network with a German professor forced into service by the Nazis and sent to Paris to do this work in the libraries–a professor with secrets he can never let the Nazis discover.

I had been calling this novel The Library of Burned Books, but because there are other books out there with similar titles, we’ve retitled it to The Collector of Burned Books. And I am so, so excited to share this story with you all!! While a new setting with a plot that completely stands alone, my dedicated readers will nevertheless see some familiar faces. (Georgie, anyone? Anyone? And did anyone wonder if perhaps Rem’s brother Sebastian didn’t die in that mud??) It will release from Tyndale in Summer 2025!

15. New Desk and Office…Sort Of

How to comfort myself when my firstborn baby goes off to college? Obviously by doing what parents have been doing for generations–taking over her room while she’s away. 😉 I have long wished for an office that wasn’t just the kitchen, and when Xoe went off to Annapolis, I moved to her room and its HUGE desk. Now, I didn’t take a lot back there, so that whenever she comes home for weekends or breaks, it’s a simple matter of clearing out of her way again. But I’ll admit I love being able to spread out and actually be able to fit my laptop and my Wacom tablet for design work and the mouse and my coffee cup on the desk all at the same time. (Especially useful since half the time the cat is also there, and she takes up literally a third of my small in-kitchen desk, LOL.)

I even rearranged the attached bookshelf to make it pretty for photos and videos. =)

16. TikTok

Speaking of videos…I joined TikTok in January! I’d been thinking for a while that I wanted to try it out, but my old phone had neither the memory for one more app nor a camera capable of good video. So I got a new one (Yay! No more memory errors every other day!) and took the plunge.

I will admit that I have not set the world on fire over there. 😉 And I totally let it slip after my diagnosis (see the next entry). But I’m learning the ropes, anyway, and enjoying it. If you’re on TikTok, you can find me @roseannamwhite (https://www.tiktok.com/@roseannamwhite)

17. Cancer

This is, of course, the biggest event of my year. In March, an incredibly painful lump popped up in my right breast. I went to the doctor, who suggested a mammo and ultrasound, though she thought it was most likely a cyst. The scan results showed something, but they weren’t sure what, so a biopsy was ordered. After a two-week delay in getting the results, they confirmed that it was breast cancer (by this time, it was mid April). Being the novelist that I am, I had already played out every possible plot twist as I awaited results, so when my doctor delivered the news, I wasn’t surprised (unlike my poor husband), and I didn’t feel unprepared or afraid. My thought was honestly, “Okay, God. This is the plot you’ve chosen for me. Let’s see where you take me with it and what you do with it.”

From there, everything happened so fast! I had appointments with a surgeon and oncologist within a week, scans left and right, and treatment began in early May. It was staged at 2/3 due to size and axilla node involvement, which meant chemo, then surgery and radiation. As of now, I’m still in the chemo, coming up on my final infusion (of 6). And though this isn’t the plot twist I would have chosen (I mean, for me–I’d totally subject a character to it, LOL), it has honestly been such an amazing experience in so many ways. The outpouring of encouragement and support has left me astounded and so, so grateful to be part of the family of God. I’ve only had a few passing moments of fear. And though there’s been plenty of feeling-sick and constant exhaustion, my heart and soul know only peace and assurance. I haven’t even had to cling to His hand–I just know I’m there, sheltered in his palm.

18. Wigs

My cancer is HER2 positive, hormone negative, which means I’m on TCHP chemotherapy. This type of treatment does not guarantee hair loss–only about 50% of women experience it, and for some, it’s not total. I held out hope…but alas. Two weeks after my first treatment, the hair started falling out, and within 48 hours, I’d lost about half of it. I decided that was enough (bald spots! NOPE!), and Xoe helped me shave the rest off. Which, of course, meant it was time to have fun with wigs! Because if I’m going to go through this, I am going to have fun with it. 😉 I ordered a long red one. A wavy purple one. A blonde one that I’d hoped would look like my natural hair (but which totally doesn’t). Friends sent a short blond one, and a short brown one.

I can honestly say that the red is my favorite–I can’t believe how well it suits my complexion! And it’s the most comfortable of them all. But the purple one is such fun! Which one is your favorite?

19. Scarves

But wigs aren’t that comfortable, so when at home or on days when I don’t feel like dealing with it, I do scarves or a little chemo cap with a fun flower. I had quite a scarf collection already, and I bought a pack of 16 solid colors, so I have something for every outfit.

20. Keto for Lent

This list is SO in random order, LOL. Backtracking to the new year…I decided that I wanted to keto for Lent this year, but I actually started it in mid-January, because I was so over-sugared after the holidays that I just couldn’t take it. 😉 It felt great to get back to low carbs for a while…though I was hoping it would also help my energy levels like it had before, and that was a disappointment. Of course, when I learned I had cancer, that explained the pervasive fatigue, so I didn’t hold it against keto. 😉 I did stop doing it after Easter, and with the diagnosis, I’m pretty much just eating what tastes good (chemo totally messes up your taste buds!), but I really like the discipline of it for Lent!

21. New Laptop ~ Clio

I hadn’t planned on needing a new laptop–the one I’d been using was only a year old. But it began to experience some serious bugs when I was running the Adobe Suite, making it clear that it wasn’t going to last long. The keyboard stopped working, and it kept shutting itself off when I was in the middle of work. So we decided to go back The Workhorse–a Lenovo ThinkPad. I know this machine will last me years, and it’s souped up enough to run my graphics-heavy design programs.

One thing I love about setting up a Windows computer these days is that it asks you to name it. Having already read my propensity to name cars, you shouldn’t be surprised that this makes me grin. But for some reason, I’d always just given generic names to my previous computers. Things like “red laptop” or “HP.” Not this time, though! I decided I would start naming my computers after the Muses. This new one has been dubbed Clio, one of the muses specializing in stories and the written word. =)

22. Melaleuca

Here’s the thing. I like using products, both for my home and body, that are wholesome and healthy and absent harsh chemicals. But I also don’t have a lot of brain space to give selecting these things, so I like it when I can find a company who I can simply trust to provide. I like it especially when the products are normal prices. So when a friend introduced me to Melaleuca, I breathed a sigh of relief. It’s a membership company, where you have to order a certain amount a month…but that’s fine, because I need those products, and I know I can trust the ones they provide. I’m very glad to have been introduced to them and have thus far loved everything I’ve tried!

23. Sprayed Edges

One of my goals for 2024 was to find new ways to take joy in books, and one of the ways I found to do it was to make the books in my library beautiful. Something I ADORE about the fantasy book world is all the special editions with fancy covers and (gasp) sprayed edges. SO PRETTY!! Of course, being me, I decided I’d like to learn how to do it rather than just spend money on those publisher-produced special editions. So I bought some clamps, some spray paint, a Cricut to cut out my stencils…and there we go! Painted edges! They may not be as intricate and artsy as some of the very talented people using airbrush and so on…but it’s made me happy, anyway!

24. Pacas

I admit it. I get sucked into Facebook ads all…the…time. And last autumn, I was totally enamored by an ad for socks I saw whose tagline was “softer than cashmere, warmer than wool.” I’ve knit with alpaca wool before and love it, so I was immediately all “Ooooo, me wanty!” over these socks. David wanted to get me a multi-pack from Pacas for Christmas, but they were out of the color scheme I wanted (purple–duh), so we just kept checking back. FINALLY in the spring, the purple pack was back, so we ordered them. I love them, guys. They’re thick and cushy but not TOO thick, so soft, and definitely warm. (Which, when one spends one’s day in front of an air conditioning vent in the kitchen, is important even in the spring and summer!) Highly recommend!

25. Protector

“This is the best book I’ve read in a long time. It’s…perfect.” I don’t say those words lightly, but I said them a few months ago after reading Protector by Megan Schaulis. This book is a dystopian Esther retelling and, friends, it hits ALL the notes. We’ve got a Hunger Games style competition, we’ve got royal themes, we’ve got a heroine with a unique relationship to God, we’ve got unlikely friendships and romance…it’s just GAH. So perfect! Go read it. Now. You’re welcome.

26. Reading Goals

In 2023, I had a very vague goal of wanting to read 50 books by the end of the year. I ended up with 54, 75% of which were in audio format. For 2024, I wanted to get back to reading more physical books (see the next one) and I wanted to set a more ambitious goal. So my 2024 reading goal is 100 books…and though I can’t yet report on it fully, so far I’m on track! I’m using an app called StoryGraph to help me track it.

27. The Art of Sitting Down

I don’t do well with idleness. I’m one of those people who likes to be doing something active, which is why audio books have been great for me. I’d listen while I do chores or exercise or drive. But I’d begun to notice something I didn’t like so much–that I couldn’t sit down and read. I felt like I had to pop up every fifteen minutes to do something.

Not cool, y’all. Not cool. Reading has always been one of My Things, so this new restlessness wasn’t something I wanted to ignore. I decided that I would retrain myself to just sit and read…and I have. It took a few weeks, but I am happy to report that I can once again curl up with a good book and enjoy myself. Not to say I don’t still love audio books! But especially as cancer left me wiped out, this rediscovered skill has been a blessing.

28. Encouragement Bombs

I have the most awesome friends and family in the world, pretty sure. I was overwhelmed in the best way at the outpouring of love and support surrounding my diagnosis and as I began cancer treatments, which I’ve said many times. But one of the most amazing things is what I’m calling “Encouragement Bombs.” My P&P ladies began sending me things to arrive on or around chemo infusion days–each thing signed “From your P&P sisters, via…” whomever popped it into the mail. Sometimes it’s boxes of goodies, sometimes it’s a beautiful card. Always, it just fills my heart with so much gratitude to see the pile of encouragement literally delivered to me on those hard weeks. And we’ve done it for other P&P members too, which is when I realized these “bombs” were very much planned and yet left up to the individual. I don’t know if there’s a real name for it, but I’m going to keep calling them this!

29. Meal Train

I am admittedly behind the times in some things. When my sister asked how she could help through my treatments, I said “food” was an easy one to delegate–I was already so tired by the time I was diagnosed that I rarely cooked. And my sister LOVES the whole meal-prep thing. She decided to organize a meal train…and soon learned there was an actual Meal Train, a site that would manage it all, including donations of gift cards and just straight-up donations. She got this set up for me, and oh my gracious. Most of my friends aren’t local, so the actual sign-ups for meals have been few, but you all have blessed my socks off with gift cards and monetary donations. Through this, my out-of-pocket medical costs are being covered, and we don’t have to stress about all the times we need to buy gas or food while we’re driving for treatments or scans or just too tired to cook. Big thanks to everyone who has used this to pitch in!! I think I’ve said, “People are so kind. They are just so…awesome” about a million times at this point.

30. Prayer Gardening

I am not a gardener. Full stop. But after my diagnosis, the amazing Cathy Gohlke reached out to encourage me (she had her own cancer journey several years ago), and she told me that she does “prayer gardening.” She will dedicate each plant to a person or a particular need and then, whenever she’s tending that plant, she prays for that specific intention. She went on to say she’d just planted a new rose, an Agatha Christie rose, and she had dedicated it to me.

Y’all…I love this SO MUCH. If ever I take up gardening, I want to do this! And the fact that she dedicated a rose (my favorite flower) to me which is named after an author? Yep. Gives me all the warm fuzzies! (She sent a photo when it bloomed, too!!)

 31. Zero Sugar Honey

We love honey. Particularly when combined with peanut butter. But when you’re on a low-sugar diet…well, despite not being processed cane sugar, it’s still sugar. But happily, there are zero sugar alternatives out there! Did you know that?? We’ve tried both ChocZero and WholesomeYum brands, and our favorite is actually the orange flavor of WholesomeYum. So tasty!! (And it somehow still works with peanut butter. That kick of orange just adds a little unexpected something.) If you’re looking for a low-carb alternative but love that honey taste, these are actually a really great alternative! Texture and consistency is spot-on, and given the wide variation of flavors in natural honeys, these fit nicely in the family! (They’re made from a monk fruit and allulose blend, both of which are derived from plants so are all natural.)

32. Comfy deck chairs

David and I enjoy sitting on the deck in the evenings when the weather is fair…but we had metal decorative chairs, and you know what isn’t comfortable? Metal decorative chairs, LOL. They came with the house, what can I say? But we’d been talking for the last couple years about wanting more comfy options, and my MIL got us some for Christmas! Yay!!

33. Patrons & Peers Creative Retreat in OBX!

In October, the P&P ladies joined me for our second annual creative retreat…and this time we met up in one of my favorite places on earth–the Outer Banks of North Carolina! We rented a big ol’ beach house in Rodanthe and enjoyed a whole week of writing, sewing, reading, art-ing, relaxing, beaching, and chatting. It was SO MUCH FUN!! Of course, my family had to drive through flooded roads (sketchy!) to get there, but the water had receded by the time the others arrived. And then I discovered that I hadn’t rented linens, so there was a bit of panic, during which David said I was officially fired from the planning of these, not because I made mistakes but because I turned into a crazy person when I realized it, LOL. So another member appointed herself as planner of future retreats, and I most happily turned over the reins. Mostly, I just LOVE this time spent with some of the women who have become a daily part of my life and such dear friends and sisters!

34. Slack

WhiteFire joined Slack this year, and while at first I thought I didn’t want “one more thing”…in truth, it has been AWESOME to have a work space where we can all be for instant communication! The staff loved it so much that we started a group for our authors too, so we can also communicate directly with them there!

35. MidJourney

One of the BIGGEST boons to my year has to be MidJourney, an AI image generator. I absolutely love what I can create on this platform! I did character images, which was super fun…but I also use it in my design work. Instead of spending hours crafting an image with a dozen stock photos all meshed together to get that image that just doesn’t otherwise exist, I can now spend minutes crafting a prompt and editing the image that MidJourney creates. Of course AI is imperfect…but you know what? It’s a tool I’m loving because it helps me create better art faster in many cases!

36. Adoration

Adoration is one of those things that I’d never heard of before joining the Catholic church but which I now love. What is it? It’s when a blessed communion wafer is displayed (in something called a monstrance) at the front of the church, and you can just come in during the time and be there in the presence of Jesus, focusing your eyes on Him, on the gift He gave us to partake of Him. We’ve only been a couple times, but each was a real blessing. Our parish does Adoration the first Friday of each month, and last month, it was just such a sweet time of mediating on His love for us that I was sniffing back tears and basking in a new level of peace.

37. Popular Books

Given that most of my reading over the last two decades has been in the Christian realm, I only rarely know all the “big books” that people at large talk about. But this last year, I’ve been listening to a lot of audio books in the general market (because my library’s selection of Christian fiction audio books is slim pickings), and it’s been fun not only to read more broadly, but also to look at lists of the most borrowed books of the year nationwide and realize that I’ve read most of them! For an author, keeping one’s finger on the pulse of what’s resonating with readers all over the country is so helpful, especially since the Christian market tends to be about two years behind the mainstream market in trends. So I can incorporate aspects that are appealing, but of course put them in faith-filled stories.

Some of my favorite discoveries this last year have been Emily Henry (I’ve enjoyed all of them that I’ve read–which was most of her backlist, but Book Lovers remains my favorite), Colleen Hoover, and Fourth Wing and Iron Flame.

38. Morgantown

In my area, it’s just a fact that you have to drive to get to good healthcare, good shopping, airports…pretty much anything. When I was diagnosed with cancer, I knew I’d have to go out of town, and I debated on whether to go southeast toward Baltimore and D.C., or northwest toward Morgantown WV and Pittsburgh. Since I already see an endocrinologist in Morgantown, and because I didn’t feel like fighting with metro traffic regularly, we decided on Morgantown.

I’ll admit it. I haven’t been a Morgantown fan in general in the past. It’s the home of West Virginia University, which is big and crowded and not my cup of tea as colleges go; but the town is, of course, built around it. As we’re visiting regularly for my treatments and appointments, however, I’m coming to appreciate all we can find there–and especially the medical teams. I am so impressed by how cheerful and caring everyone has been! It’s so refreshing to be surrounded by knowledgeable, professional, caring staff. I’m so glad we made the choice we did!

39. Bookshelf Quilt!

In mid-July, I saw a post by an author friend showing a gorgeous quilt her friend had made her, made to look like a bookshelf with all her books on it. How cool is that? Well, little did I know that Deanna, one of the quilters in my P&P group, was already at work on one for me! And as it happens, she brought it to me as a surprise literally days after I saw that post and thought, “Wow, how amazing is that!” (Answer: SO AMAZING!)

Apparently as soon as I was diagnosed, Deanna and the other P&P ladies began scheming and decided it was something that must be created, so they decided how it should be. So not only do the books on the shelves have all my titles…but there are also books with the names of all my P&P members! I LOVE THAT SO MUCH! Not only do I get to snuggle up with the books I’ve written, but with the group of amazing ladies who have become such an integral part of my life.

(I tried to get Lilly to sit on the quilted cat for the photo, but she had no interest in helping me out. She snuggled up and napped on the shelves right away though, LOL.)

40. Wrapped Door

For Christmas, I randomly decided to wrap the pantry door in my kitchen. I chose a red paper with silver snowflakes on it, and I just loved it so much that I left it up, er…way too long, LOL. It was May before I finally thought, “Okay, fine, it’s time to take that off,” but I didn’t want to give up the fun of a design on my pantry door, so I ordered some printed canvas from Jo-Ann Fabric, and David and Rowyn helped me take the door off, wrap it, and rehang it.

41. Travel…or Not

It was supposed to be a spring and summer with lots of travel. I should have taught at conferences in Chicago in May and Oregon in June; I should have had a writing retreat coming up in September and a P&P retreat in October. I had been looking at vacations to book for June…right when I received my diagnosis. Not surprisingly, everything got cancelled and/or rescheduled. In general that was fine, because there’s only so much my brain can really handle right now, and taking pressure off was welcome. But I also missed the promise of visiting with friends, and of course a week at the beach–which is totally our happy place. Our beach vacations are where we unwind, relax, and dream. So given the lack of summer travel, I’ve booked us a vacation for December instead. We had to go really far south to get good beach weather that late in the year, of course, so we’ll be trying out the Florida Keys, in Marathon. I shall report later on how lovely it is in person, but the photos have TOTALLY given us all something to look forward to! (And happily, my oncologist gave me enthusiastic approval for traveling in September to my writing retreat with Stephanie, so I’ll get to do that too!)

42. I’m young!

With a daughter in college and a son determined to graduate high school a year early this coming year, I definitely don’t feel as young as I used to. But I’ve been stating my birthday an awful lot with all the medical stuff going on this year, and I cannot tell you how many times I’ve heard “You’re so young!” Now, granted, mostly that’s “You’re so young to be dealing with breast cancer!” But even so, it’s good to hear. 😉 It’s also nice to hear, as they ask about my family and I tell them how old my kids are, “Oh my goodness, you don’t look old enough to have kids that age! I thought you were thirty.” A lovely boost to the ego, LOL. So, of course, something to remind myself of as I welcome in a new year of life.

As tired as I’ve been this last half-year, young isn’t always how I’ve felt. Given the national average life expectancy, I’m firmly middle-aged. But you know what? I still have so much life to live, so much ahead of me, so many dreams to chase, so many stories to write, so many adventures to go on…and I am still young! Young enough to thoroughly enjoy the next chapters of my story, whatever they may be. And determined to always be young enough for that, whatever my age!

All in all, 41 is a year I’ll never forget, given that big diagnosis and all it’s meant. But for all the challenges and side-effects that came with it, this has also been a year of more blessings than I can count, of seeing the world and the Church family in a new way. I’m closing out 41 feeling so extraordinarily blessed and content and full of joyful expectation for what’s to come. Maybe this isn’t how I would have written my own story…but it’s how God is writing it, and I trust my Author wholeheartedly. I know he’ll lead me into 42 and will have new things to show me and teach me, and I can’t wait to see what they are!

2024 Word of the Year – (Re)Discover

2024 Word of the Year – (Re)Discover

2023 was a hard year. Due to circumstances beyond our control, I not only had 6 manuscripts to turn in and 9 rounds of edits on those manuscripts, but my husband spent quite a big chunk of the second half of the year traveling to Baltimore to help his stepfather after he had a massive stroke, so I did my best to pick up the slack in his usual work too. I did this willingly and freely…but by the time December rolled around, I was exhausted. Mentally, physically, emotionally. Exhausted.

This happened last year too as I struggled through the symptoms of my pituitary tumor, so I guess it shouldn’t have come as a big surprise…but it kinda did. I’d been feeling great this year, even given the circumstances. More creative than I have felt in a decade. Capable of anything. Then came that end of the year crash, which was intense enough that I literally wanted to do nothing, think about nothing, and plan nothing.

One thing about me, though–my disposition just won’t stay “down” for long. 😉 When Stephanie (best friend/critique partner) mentioned talking about our 2024 goals whenever I felt up to it, my spirit perked up. As if that mere mention was enough to remind me that the future was still stretching before me, and that dreaming up ways to fill it was one of my favorite things. The exhaustion began edging back. Joy crept back in. And my thoughts turned to something else I’d been putting off in my tired wreck: choosing my Word of the Year for 2024.

As in the past few years, I decided to do a prayerful consideration and even look at my list of words in my “How to Choose an Intentional Word of the Year” post from 2022. I wasn’t just waiting for something to strike me, I was exploring my own mind and heart and soul…and needs.

This year, I was considering the year to come while still under the shadow of exhaustion from the year closing out, and I knew that I wanted to go a different direction with my Word choice than I have recently. My previous three Words were Intentional, Devotion, and Linger. Each of those choices were meant to guide me in how I approached different aspects of my life and determined to what I gave my time and attention. They were all meant to cut out filler and frill and distractions and center my focus on what mattered most: God, relationships, and my writing.

They did that.

But in 2023, do you know what brought me the most joy in the moments of greatest trial? Exploring new facets of those old loves. Reading new books I wouldn’t usually have picked up; writing stories outside my genre. Trying new things. And even sending Xoe off on her new adventure of college life.

So as I considered a Word to lead me into 2024, I wanted something that captured that. Maybe EXPLORE? Or DISCOVER? Those were my main two contenders, and nothing else felt even remotely right.

I debated for about two weeks which of those two words I wanted to go with, and I decided on Discover largely because of the prefix I could affix to it…because I know well I don’t just want to discover new things. I want to REdiscover old loves too. I want to revitalize relationships I’ve let flag. I want to  rediscover the Roseanna who was slowly worn down this last decade by pituitary issues.

Because you know what phrase I said countless times in 2023, as I wrote more than I’ve ever written and did more than I’ve ever done? “I feel more like myself than I have in years.” And I didn’t realize, before, that I wasn’t feeling like me. Not until “I” returned in a flood. So one of the things I hope for in 2024 is to lean into that. To rediscover the things that once brought me joy but which I’ve set aside in the face of responsibilities and distractions and exhaustion.

First on the list: READING.

I know this sounds strange coming from a person whose whole world is books, but I haven’t been reading for fun as much as I’d like in recent years–so much else to get done first in the day, and then I’m usually so tired in the evenings that the thought of opening a book just made my eyes hurt. Audiobooks have helped quite a lot, and in fact, 29 of the 52 books I’ve read in 2023 were on audio. (!! I hadn’t realized it was such a high percentage until just now!) I don’t intend to give up the audio, but I DO intend to take more time with physical books in my hand this year.

One thing I noticed in this last holiday week, though, was that I’ve gotten out of the habit of just sitting with a book. I had to seriously squelch the instinct to get up and check on this or that or see if someone needed something and just give myself permission to BE THERE, with that bound paper in hand. To enjoy it. To relax into it. I never would have guessed that I’d get so out of practice with something I’ve done for so long! But there you have it. “Getting lost in a book for hours on end” is something I need to rediscover.

Next on the list: EXTENDED FAMILY

I’m a homebody and an introvert, so I’ll be honest: family gatherings cost me. One-on-one is better, but it’s still not without a price to me. I need a day at home to recharge from days that I go out, and if I don’t get them, the strain shows. In recent years with my energy and brain struggles, that cost was higher than I think I even realized. But as 2023 drew to a close, I spent a lot of time thinking about family.

About the grandmothers who won’t be with me forever.

About the sister I’ve drifted away from.

About the cousins I never see.

About the parents who don’t always fit in my schedule.

In the year to come, I don’t just want to say “I’ll spend more time with them.” I’ve said that before. What I instead want to do is reDISCOVER the real joy of those relationships. I’m in some ways the oddball of my family (or as Xoe asked last week, upon returning to our very-rural hometown after months in the urbane Annapolis, “Where did you guys even come from?” LOL), but I want to rediscover how our differences complement each other.

Next up: CREATIVITY

I want to try new things. I want to master the sprayed edges of books. I want to write more fantasy. I want to write novellas and shorts. I want to try my hand at suspense. I want to find new artistic outlets. I want to learn how to do TikTok videos. I want to find ways to redesign my space (preferably for free, ha ha). I want to play the piano more. I want to learn new things.

In this difficult year of 2023, creativity proved a lifeline; in my driest season financially, I found wellsprings of life-giving creative water. I want to cling to that, and to find new wells of it, to rediscover old ones, and to explore new ways to engage with that creative side.

And: RESPONSIBILITY

Maybe that seems like a strange one to put on the list, but seriously. Sometimes it’s SO easy to resent our responsibilities, and that’s where I was a couple of weeks ago, exhausted and burned out and fed up with everything, even the things I love best. But it helped to realize that we CHOSE those responsibilities, in most cases. That God gave us others, yes, but the ones that come from my dreams–the ones tied to our publishing company and my contracts and my design clients–those are all choices I made. And I made them for a reason. I decided to pursue those things because they seemed good and desirable and in keeping with the calling of Christ.

They’re hard sometimes, especially when worldly success doesn’t follow them. And honestly, I don’t always know when God’s calling us away from one and to something new. But I do know that embracing what we don’t feel called to leave behind instead of resenting the time and effort and blood and tears is crucial. I don’t want the things on my checklist to FEEL like things on a checklist, just to be gotten through. I want to remember why I love each and every thing I do. I want to know I’m doing it for God’s glory. I want to cut only what He wants me to cut, and to embrace what He wants me to embrace. I don’t want to be the son in the parable who sighs and complains but does it anyway. I want to be the one He didn’t even include in that story, who agrees right away and does it with joy. (I always found it amusing that Jesus doesn’t even address such a possibility in that parable, LOL.)

What will 2024 bring? I have no idea. But as I walk through the months to come, I intend to do it with a heart of discovery. With eyes open to things old and new. With a creative mind and eager hands and a fearless heart ready to explore and discover whatever God shows me this year.

Have you chosen a word for 2024? I’d love to hear it!

2023 Word of the Year Reflection – Linger

2023 Word of the Year Reflection – Linger

As December, and hence 2023, draws to a close, it’s that time when I pause to reflect upon the twelve months that have just passed, especially in light of my Word of the Year. In January of 2023, I chose the word “Linger” to guide me into the year to come.

I’m an overachieving, goal-oriented, competitive person, and sometimes that results in impatience. Sometimes I’m so busy trying to reach benchmarks that I don’t pause to enjoy where I am. But I knew as I looked ahead into 2023 that that wasn’t how I wanted to live my life, especially not during Xoe’s last year at home before college. I wanted to linger–linger with God, linger with my family, linger with friends. I wanted to linger in Scripture, in prayer, and in the things that matter.

As I sit here in December and look back with that word in mind, I’ll be honest: my first thought was, “Well, I didn’t do such a great job with that this year.” But as I reread my post from January 1, I realize I’m being a little too hard on myself. Was the year perfect? No. Was I a model of patience 24/7? No. Did I perfectly resist the temptation to rush all year? No.

But…but I actually made some new habits that have just become so much a part of my life now that I didn’t immediately take them into account when I sat down to do this reflection.

I didn’t in fact start the Lectio Divina method of studying scripture as I’d intended, but I did read quite a few spiritual books along with my daily dose of Scripture. At the start of the year, I was spending 1-2 hours a morning in prayer. As deadlines mounted for my writing, that contracted to about 30 minutes. But they’re still some of my favorite minutes of the day, as I sit with my coffee and my Bible.

One of my big goals for the year was to linger with family. We sent our firstborn off to college this August, and I knew I didn’t want to feel like I’d wasted our last months together with nothing but work. I still had to work–as a homeschooling, work-from-home mom, the various parts of our lives and relationships have to mesh. And this last year, I can remember many times when one of the kids or David would come out into the kitchen where I was working, and I would spin my chair away from my computer to give them my undivided attention. Many times this was just a few-minutes conversation, but quite a few times, it was an hour-long discussion.

I treasured those times. Even if they put me behind in my work, I knew they were the important things, and I held tight to them. So many afternoons or evenings, Xoe and I would just hang out in the kitchen, talking through fears and anxieties about the upcoming changes, talking about dreams and hopes, talking about new friends and the life she’s building at St. John’s. Rowyn and I, on those days when we’re the only ones in the house for a few hours, spent hours talking about science, about God, about his dreams of someday taking over the property and what changes he wants to make. His dreams of owning a business, the multiverses he creates in his head and how he isn’t sure yet the best way to get those out there. David and I would sit at the table or on the couch and talk about business and AI and God and the Church, about our family and our minds and hearts, our hopes and our fears.

We listened to audio books together–as a couple, and as a family. We lit a fire in the fireplace during the cold months and spent our evenings in front of it, a cup of something in hand and either those conversations or audio books occupying our minds.

I got to linger with my Patrons & Peers ladies, both on Marco Polo and then in a full week retreat in the Outer Banks of NC. So many hours laughing together, sharing the stories of our lives, deepening our friendships, and just doing life together. I also got to take a full week on a writing retreat with my best friend, which included plenty of lingering in conversation, walks on the beach in Pensacola, talking over dinners, and filling in all the blanks that crop up in an otherwise long-distance friendship.

My mom and I try to do a lunch out every month, and while it doesn’t always happen every month, it’s so lovely when it does. In October I worked from my mom’s house while they were away so that I could be on hand to help my grandmother who lives in an apartment attached to their garage, and I treasured the lunches we had together. She’s 92, and I want to take more time to linger with her. I know that the lingering that happens away from my house is still something I need to work on.

In 2023, I ended up with 6 contracted books to turn in. Y’all…that’s a lot of books. I wrote half a million words this year! That’s a lot of words. And when put that way, it’s no wonder that not all of my lingering goals could happen. Especially when you also factor in some pretty major health crises in our family, including my husband’s stepfather’s massive stroke, that meant David spent months traveling to Baltimore multiple times a week.

But an amazing thing happened through all of that. I found myself lingering more, this last half of the year, in story. More than I’ve done in so many years! I didn’t even think to put that on my list of lingering goals, because I didn’t realize I wasn’t doing it. But when stories began to flood my mind again, I realized how little they had been in the last few years. I found such joy in them again, in just being there in the story world, in writing when I didn’t have to, in getting to know my characters and settings like I’d done way back when.

Some of those half-million words…they weren’t necessary. They weren’t for deadlines. They weren’t for contracted novels. They were just for a fantasy I got an idea for and started writing in spare days and hours. Do you know how long it’s been since I wrote something I didn’t have to write? Years. So many years. And oh, the joy that floods my soul when I do what God made me to do, not because I have to, but because I want to. Lingering in story renewed my faith too, in ways I know every artistic soul out there can understand.

My year of Linger certainly wasn’t flawless…but it was beautiful. In many ways, 2023 was the worst year our family has faced in a long, long time…but there’s been such beauty in it too. In time spent together, in dreams renewed.

Maybe I didn’t linger everywhere and with everyone that I’d hoped to…but linger isn’t a word I need to just give up come December 31st, either. Linger has become a way of life and relationship that I’m learning to embrace.

How did your 2023 go? If you chose a Word of the Year, did that word guide you? Did you forget what it was? Are you planning to choose a word next year?

Merry Christmas!

Merry Christmas!

Merry Christmas, everyone!

I imagine most of you will be wrapped up in celebration rather than checking on blogs, but I wanted a short message of peace and praise and good will on here in case you happen by.

First, a quick reminder.

Christmas Day is the BEGINNING of the Christmas season, not the end! Today is the First day of the Octave (eight days of feasting), of the Twelve Days that lead us to Epiphany, and of the whole season that traditionally stretches long into January. I know that society today moves quickly on, but I hope we as believers let the beauty of Christ’s arrival linger long in our hearts.

Here’s a traditional Christmas prayer to warm you.

Lord, in this holy season of prayer and song and laughter,
we praise you for the great wonders you have sent us:
for shining star and angel’s song,
for infant’s cry in lowly manger.
We praise you for the Word made flesh in a little Child.
We behold his glory, and are bathed in its radiance.

Amen

Merry Christmas, Friends!